Brooke wrote a compelling essay inviting parents to really get to the root of their children’s behavior by simply asking their children what’s wrong. (Sounds so simple, doesn’t it?)
She wrote, “Can you imagine loving your child to death and he/she not feeling loved? What is heartbreaking for me is thinking I am giving enough love and then realizing that it may NOT be enough for a particular child at that time. I just have to give more… And that goes for each of my children at different times.
I’m taking a big breath as I write this, knowing that I need to make some serious adjustments in my already too busy life. Happiness isn’t an emotion I can expect from all my children at all times, but I can strive for it. Sadness is definitely one I can work on, and knowing the cause is certainly the beginning. I do not believe that most children know how to ask for what they need and want. But when asked, they sure might tell you.
I’m trying not to focus on what I’m doing wrong, (we can always be better parents) but rather what I can adjust to make her feel better. I know that the proof of how well we’ve done isn’t in winning our children’s seal-of-approval. For me, it’s knowing that I am paying attention, reading between the scribbles and adjusting along the way so that love trumps life’s challenges.”
How do ensure that your child feels loves despite a chaotic family life?